Our Wedding Party

I apologise in advance. I usually let you know when a post is photo heavy. In the history of Vanilla Blonde, this has got to be THE largest number of photos in one post. To be honest, I didn’t think it was actually possible to fit so many in. So, like I said… I apologise in advance for the scrolling and possible finger cramp. Get some tea now! Please also look out for the writing and explanations in between the photos! This has to also be the blog post that took me the longest to compile, but it was so worth the hours and hours. 

When I sat down with Jadee Fernandes, from Watermelon Events and Coral and Chantelle from Green Goddess to discuss the theme and feel we wanted, it was pretty amazing. I actually wrote about it here, but here’s an excerpt from it:

I loved our detailed meeting because not only did they take the time to really listen to me and bring in their expertise, but everything I was trying to verbalise (which is harder than it seems), they understood. When I didn’t know how to explain what I wanted, I’d show examples via Pinterest (side note – how did weddings actually get planned before Pinterest?) It’s so great to be on the same page and speak to people who understand and just get me! I’d show them a picture example and say: Like this, but not exactly. Or show them a pic and say: Like this, but less. Or like this, but more. Somehow they got it and I’m thrilled.

We are happiest in nature and because the huge barn was stone with gorgeous chandeliers, we didn’t want it to look too rustic. We wanted it to look elegant and transform into an enchanted forest fairytale.

Jadee and her team and Coral and Chantelle were absolutely incredible and there aren’t enough words of gratitude!bs050316-25

My pet peeve of wedding tables is decor that is in your way, blocking the person in front of you. I’ve actually been to weddings where people have moved the flowers and centre pieces off and onto the floor. Cringe.

Our colour palette was mint, greens and white. We had lots of candle light for ambiance, fairy lights, greenery, green leaves and white flowers.bs050316-28 bs050316-29 bs050316-30 bs050316-31

My Mom hand wrote every guests name (170 of them) in her beautiful handwriting. It’s sentimental because it’s my mom’s handwriting, which I adore so much, that I have a tattoo in it. Each name tag went into a potted succulent, done by the brilliant Martin Hammond. He really put so much care into spraying the little pots white, finding the perfect mint colour ribbons and hand picking the succulents. Thank you Martin!

It served as a place setting and also as a take home gift, so that our love could continue to grow. bs050316-34 bs050316-35

My Mom also made our Guest book. She made the pewter cover, in our emblem. Amazing!bs050316-36 bs050316-37

It sat on a table with white pillar candles lit to remember those loved ones who were celebrating with us in Heaven.bs050316-748 bs050316-747bs050316-626bs050316-38 bs050316-39 bs050316-42 bs050316-91 bs050316-92 bs050316-93 bs050316-94 bs050316-98 bs050316-97 bs050316-95 bs050316-103 bs050316-162 bs050316-163

Each guests name was placed into these forest fairytale rings with the table number they were seated at…bs050316-167bs050316-33bs050316-615 bs050316-168 bs050316-164 bs050316-165

We also bought each guest a Lotto Ticket, but sadly we didn’t have any new millionaires. What a story that would have made!bs050316-750 bs050316-751

Instead of many tables around a dance floor, we decided on the main table and 4 large banquet tables of guests. We love Family Style Dining, so it wasn’t plated food of a choice you had to make (chicken or beef?) or a stand-in-a-queue buffet. Instead, we had big plentiful platters on the table for our guests to enjoy and taste a little bit of everything on offer. It gave it a real Mediterranean/European feel. We had platters of vegetables, bowls of sweet potato chips and tender pieces of chicken and sliced rump that was prepared on the Souvla Machines.

We also had midnight snacks of Mini Kitka Rolls With Grilled Chicken, Ripe Camembert, Caramelized Onions And Rocket.

All catered by Picnic Company & Mustard Catering, who were superb.bs050316-732 bs050316-733 bs050316-734 bs050316-736 bs050316-739

We sipped on Nederburg Brut and wines from the Nederburg Heroes Heritage collection and Allesverloren Rosé, Coco Vita coconut waters and alcohol from Pernod Ricard served at the bar brought in by Thirst Bar, who are the most professional and accommodating bar service you can ask for.bs050316-627bs050316-612 bs050316-617 Sox and I entered our party to the song: Boom Shake the Room by Will Smith.bs050316-620

We had some of the most incredible speeches. Martin Goodman was our excellent MC and he pulled the whole evening together. bs050316-631My Dad said a speech that was just Wow! bs050316-650

Karolina Sky said a speech that had me in happy tears.


2 of Sox’s groomsmen gave wonderful speeches: Dave Raad…bs050316-719bs050316-714bs050316-721bs050316-715bs050316-729

…and Marc Delaporte:  bs050316-754bs050316-725bs050316-769

Yaron Wiesenbacher had asked us if he could say something and read something he had written for us. He is one of the best writers I know and he was excellent.
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Finally Sox stood to say his speech.bs050316-772

One of the funniest moments was when it sounded like he was ending his speech and I thought he had forgotten to thank the bridesmaids. So in the middle of his speech, I called him over to whisper “Don’t forget the bridesmaids” … Turns out he was just getting started and I went bright red. Everyone was laughing and Sox teased that his wife was already exercising her right to tell him what to do! Haha!

Look at these pics… it says it all…
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Well, Sox spoke for 52 minutes and no one felt the length at all. His speech was riveting, emotional and so heartfelt I get a lump in my throat just thinking about it. One minute we were laughing, one minute we were crying and then back to laughing again. He was incredible!

He didn’t realise he had spoken for so long, but some friends had a bet going as to how long his speech would be, so they had started timing it.bs050316-784bs050316-792

There wasn’t a dry eye when he spoke to his Dad and Mom… bs050316-794 bs050316-795 bs050316-796 bs050316-797 bs050316-800 bs050316-806 bs050316-810 bs050316-811 bs050316-814

We also happened to have 2 Birthdays. Jarrad’s birthday was that day, the 5th of March and Lucia’s birthday was the 6th of March, so we arranged 2 birthday cakes with sparklers for them. bs050316-807

Speaking of cakes…We had the most incredible forest fairytale 3 tiered cake made by The Cake Duchess. Thank you again to Kerryn and Kirsty Du Toit from KDT Comms for helping us with this. You guys were amazing! The attention to detail was incredible and all the flowers and leaves were edible – sugary delights! We had carrot, red velvet and chocolate tiers. My mom made the wire Mr and Mrs. Cake topper and it was borrowed from my sisters wedding cake from the year before.bs050316-629 bs050316-745 bs050316-744

We also had a gorgeous Dessert Bar with huge helium balloons filled with confetti, candles and home made Baklava and Greek biscuits, made especially by Sox’s mom, Dimitra. There were bowls of Swiss Chocolate that my Aunt and Uncle brought from Switzerland and the cake.bs050316-749 bs050316-743 bs050316-630 bs050316-742 bs050316-741 bs050316-740 bs050316-820 bs050316-821 bs050316-822 bs050316-823 bs050316-824 bs050316-825 bs050316-826 bs050316-827 bs050316-828 bs050316-829 bs050316-830

Our beautiful Mom’s! bs050316-831

Right lets get into the party…

My Dad and I did our father daughter dance. We danced to Bob Carlisle’s Butterfly Kisses and then my Dad handed me over to Sox, as a rite of passage, for our First Dance. The very first song we ever slow danced to when we first met was, Lonestar’s Amaze and we danced to that. Our guests all lit sparklers and I was surprised (you’ll see the look on my face) by confetti canons that shot off and it was magical!bs050316-832 bs050316-833 bs050316-835 bs050316-836 bs050316-837 bs050316-838 bs050316-839 bs050316-840 bs050316-841 bs050316-842 bs050316-843 bs050316-834

I removed my petticoat to reveal the slits in my dress for the dancing…bs050316-855 bs050316-856 bs050316-875 bs050316-876 bs050316-878 bs050316-880

Yes… that is my husband doing “The Worm.”bs050316-893 bs050316-894 bs050316-897 bs050316-898 bs050316-904 bs050316-905 bs050316-907 bs050316-916 bs050316-917 bs050316-920 bs050316-924 bs050316-925 bs050316-926 bs050316-928 bs050316-931 bs050316-933 bs050316-935 bs050316-936 bs050316-943

It was then onto the Greek Dancing and traditional Greek plate breaking and burning of whiskey. We had 1000 plates to break and it was absolutely insane!! Men poured whiskey onto the floor, set it alight and had the whiskey dance and the other traditional dancing. Afterwards, it was back to the party and our party went on until 04h30 in the morning. bs050316-939bs050316-950 bs050316-948 bs050316-949 bs050316-953 bs050316-954 bs050316-955 bs050316-958 bs050316-960 bs050316-961 bs050316-962 bs050316-963 bs050316-968 bs050316-969 bs050316-970 bs050316-972 bs050316-974 bs050316-976 bs050316-981

While we headed off to the honeymoon suite, some of our guests continued to party at the lake having sunrise swims.

One of the best pieces of advice we received, was for Sox and I to slip away, taking a bottle of champagne with us and sit away from our party, but close enough to look in and see the party we created with all our loved ones. I’m so glad we did this because we had a moment as newly weds, drank champagne, laughed, kissed and sat full of gratitude and prayer.

Another thing that, in hindsight made our party even better…there was no cellphone reception. It meant that no one sat on their phones. The only time I saw phones was for pictures and selfies, but then they were put down again, instead of spending another 5 minutes of bowed heads adding filters and Instagramming. People chatted to each other, they danced and had fun, without their phones and it was the best!

The following day, we had a company arrive to do a Lamb Spit and we spent the day lounging (a little hungover, but happy) by the lake, swimming and relaxing.

Now you understand why it was the best weekend of my life!

I am so happy I got to share our Wedding(s) with you. Thank you so much for reading the whole Wedding series.

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  • Reply Marina

    Beautiful. Had some tears in my eyes reading some of it. Amazing

    November 25, 2016 at 5:48 am
  • Reply Brenda

    Love love loved! Thank you for sharing your weddings and all the memories with us! Absolutely beautiful!

    November 25, 2016 at 5:59 am
  • Reply Sherene

    A true fairy tale…Thanks for sharing x

    November 25, 2016 at 6:23 am
  • Reply katef

    One word: MAGICAL!!!!!!!

    November 25, 2016 at 8:12 am
  • Reply Jayne Sim

    So beautiful. Very awesome and I had tears in my eyes with the pictures of his father. But you had him with you for your weddings. Love it and than you once again for sharing it with us. All the best.

    November 25, 2016 at 9:53 am
  • Reply Roy Hendrickse

    My Top Wedding for 2016…….

    November 25, 2016 at 11:03 am
  • Reply Chantel

    Loved reading all your wedding posts <3 Thank you for sharing

    November 25, 2016 at 11:23 am
  • Reply Gina

    It looks like such a happy wedding – filled with so much love!
    So lovely to see! xxx

    November 25, 2016 at 12:51 pm
  • Reply Nat

    Absolutely stunning! So much love, thought and care went into every little detail… truly a beautiful celebration of family, love and your new life together 🙂

    November 25, 2016 at 2:00 pm
  • Reply Yolanda Marais

    Wow amazing Bailey! So happy for u and wish u all the happiness in the world!

    November 25, 2016 at 5:11 pm
  • Reply Suzi Krause

    Sjoe what a party!! Loved reading this and just imagine how much fun it was…

    November 25, 2016 at 6:22 pm
  • Reply Suzi Krause

    Sjoe what a party!! Loved reading this and just imagine how much fun it was…

    November 25, 2016 at 6:22 pm
  • Reply Caley

    What a night!!!! Many special memories for you both Bails x

    November 27, 2016 at 5:56 pm
  • Reply Jodie

    Wow – amazing! Your hubby looks like he was in his element 🙂

    November 28, 2016 at 7:18 am
  • Reply Gaelyn Cokayne

    Oh what a magnificent party!!

    December 1, 2016 at 5:41 pm
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