There is a reason why I have the nickname: “Little Miss Sunshine” … it’s because I am a very positive, optimistic person. I rarely let things affect me and I certainly make the most out of a bad situation.
Life is life and it happens to all of us. We are all human, we all have bad days, good days, lethargic days, irritable days and happy days.
What defines a persons character is how they choose to deal with the given situations…. not all the same or fair. C’est La Vie.
I don’t believe we have celebrities in this country. We are not harassed by paparazzi and we are not known globally. BUT, I do believe we have public profiles and household names. Being a radio presenter on one of the biggest radio stations in South Africa and regionally puts me in the “public profile” category. That by no means makes me think that I am better than any one. Who am I to assume that I am better because I have a job that puts me in the small spotlight we have in this country?
Personally I feel we should be praising out teachers, our policemen, our doctors and nurses etc… but that’s another story for another day.
I happen to be incredibly passionate about what I do and I do this for the love of entertaining. I wanted to be a radio and TV presenter from a little girl…way before I understood what “fame” was. I love what I do because I can hopefully make people smile while they are sitting in frustrating traffic, or worried about the stresses of the day. We live in such a fast paced life full of technology that sometimes we forget to breathe and be human with emotions. If I can make someone laugh or smile or feel anything…I feel I’ve done my job for the day. It’s a personal reason (one of many) for why I love what I do.
I also understand that since my job does put me into the public, it then allows for public scrutiny. I’ve always been fascinated by this… and I am yet to understand it. We shouldn’t judge people at all, publicly or not.
I don’t need the feedback either to function or to get some sense of importance…but people will send me emails/tweets/Facebook messages regardless.
I generally don’t allow negative feedback to impact me, but I would be lying if I said it didn’t affect me a little bit. I’ve spoken to several big names in the industry and we all say the same thing (makes me feel a little less alone)….
You can receive, let’s say…20 lovely emails from people thanking you for making a difference – I’ll give you an example:
I received an email when I was presenting the graveyard shift a few years back. It was from a mother of three working the late night shift as a nurse to support her children. She was going through a nasty divorce, he refused to pay maintenance and she was trying to keep her head above water to feed her children and to keep her wits about her. She said that listening to the show and hearing some of the funny stories and laughter helped her forget for a few hours just how horrible her situation was… That touched me beyond words and I have never forgotten it.
Anyway… so we can receive 20 emails…or just 1 email like that, but when we receive a nasty cruel email…that lovely one seems to “fly out the window.”
It’s so silly, but it’s human.
Don’t get me wrong…these negative mails are few and far between, but they are still there.
I also know I run the risk of being scrutinized over this blog post, but I am living my truth and I feel I need to vent and get this out. Human after all 🙂
I have been called some of the cruelest names, been told that I think I’m all that when I’m actually not, been told I suck and that I’m a waste of air time, been told I am too fat, I look pregnant and grotesque and that they’re grateful I’m on radio so they don’t have to look at my fat.
Read it again.
I don’t need to explain that in fact I’m not actually fat. I’m curvy. Always will be. I’m never going to be a size 0 and I say: Thank Goodness!!
All I ask is that before you make a judgement or even allow it to be verbalized in the form of saying something mean or writing it, THINK FIRST. Think about how you would feel if it was said back to you… maybe it’s projection and you need to look internally first…. whatever it is, negativity is not the way forward. I’ve never known something to be enhanced for the better by being “nurtured” with hate and negativity.
We’re all going through this thing called LIFE and we need to be kind to each other.
Since today is Thankful Thursday… I’m Thankful for the kind, warm, positive, supportive and amazing people I DO have in my life, who genuinely know me. I’m grateful for the people who enhance and add to my life and who allow me to grow and learn and bump my head without any judgement. I’m grateful to those people who understand that life is hard for everyone and are kind and gentle to everyone around them.
Surround yourself with people like this… and life will be far sweeter.