Pre-wedding Story

I have decided to do a pre-wedding story to give you an idea of what happened leading up to our 2 magical days. The other reason is so that you’re not reading and scrolling for days, because you know they’re going to be photo heavy.

I feel like the luckiest girl to have had 2 wedding ceremonies! It was one of the best weekends of my life and I will never ever forget how incredible it was. It’s a little scary to think it was already 8 months ago.

The build up to get to this point, was no walk in the park. I feel like the stress planning a wedding brings, is a rite of passage. It reminds you that you’ll have to deal with stresses, together, in every day life. It reminds you that no matter what life throws at you, you have each other and you need to learn how to lean on one another, equally and compassionately.

To honour both our families, we wanted to have the Greek ceremony and the English ceremony. We didn’t want to have 2 separate wedding days, but things work out exactly the way they’re supposed to, even if at first, it was a bit of a logistical nightmare.

Sox and I sat down and we discussed what was important to each of us. We both agreed that our priorities were:

  • To have as many of our closest friends and family there as possible.
  • To have delicious food, an open bar and to not have a shut down time of midnight.
  • To have an amazing photographer and videographer who would capture the essence of our day, so that our memories would live on in our hearts and through the footage.
  • To have a destination wedding so that everyone coming from near and far would feel like they were somewhere new and magical.

When we did our list, we came out conservatively with 386 people. It was an exercise that made us feel really humbled and honoured, because when you start to look at the important people in your life and you realise how many there are, that is true wealth! It also made us realise that together, we know a shit load of people, holy moly. We weren’t even looking at acquaintances and people we know. Only problem was there was NO WAYS we could afford feeding and accommodating 386 people and it was painful to have to be ruthless in our guest list. Our final invitation number was 220 and sadly we couldn’t please everyone.

We went in search of wedding venues and believed we’d have a difficult choice because Cape Town boasts some amazing venues.

We were wrong.

Some of the venues we were looking at couldn’t accommodate the number of people. If they could accommodate the number, they insisted we use their bar and their catering, which in some places came out at over R1000 ahead. I’ll leave you to do the maths. Vomit.

Most venues shut you down at midnight and we wanted our party to finish when were ready for it to end, especially when so much money is being spent.

Some venues, as beautiful and breathtaking as they are, aren’t functional. To have a bar in a different room separates the party. Ultimately, you want your bar and your dance floor together. Sox has DJ’d enough weddings to see the functional elements of room and party flow. Guys like to stand at the bar, girls like to dance. If you have them separated, eventually the girls go to find their men and the dance floor is empty and your party is segregated.

We eventually decided on a farm out in Yzerfontein. It wasn’t necessarily a wedding venue, but it was a beautiful space that we could create into one, bring in our own bar and catering and have no time restrictions. YAY!

Our original plan was to get married on the 20 February 2016. We were going to have the Greek ceremony, followed by the shorter English ceremony and then the reception straight afterwards.

We had everything planned, suppliers booked, invitations designed and then we got an email from our venue, 3 months before our date, that they were no longer going to be able to have our wedding after all. PANIC! We phoned several wedding venues who laughed at us and said they had waiting lists for over a year already.

Fast forward, we found the venue of our dreams, just 2o minutes before Greyton. See? Everything as it is meant to be. The problem was they weren’t available on the 20 Feb; they were available the weekend of the 5th of March 2016.

The next set of problems was all our suppliers booked for the 20 Feb, weren’t available on the 5th of March, so we had to go back to square one and find new suppliers, photographers, caterers and so on. AND, it happened to fall on the weekend of The Argus Cycling tour, which meant all my friends and family from Johannesburg, suddenly had their airfare doubled. It was so stressful.

BUT… We ended up with suppliers who were even better than before, who were phenomenal at making our days so special, friends who made plans (eternally grateful) and our Mantra of “what ever is meant to be will be, in the right timing” couldn’t have rung truer.

The Greek Priest couldn’t marry us on the Saturday, 5 March, but he could marry us on the 4th of March, in the afternoon. Since our wedding venue for the reception was 2 hours out of Cape Town, it wouldn’t be possible to get married on the Friday in the Greek church in Woodstock, then travel 2 hours for the English ceremony and the reception. Hence, our 2 wedding days were created for us.

Before you give a sigh of relief… 2 wedding days, meant a new set of logistics. Would I wear the same wedding dress on both days? Would my bridesmaids wear the same dresses? What about flowers for both days?

We thought our wedding cake was sorted and it wasn’t, so a few days before our wedding, I wasn’t even sure if we would have a cake. Luckily, my managers Kirsty and Kerryn were angels and arranged a cake from The Cake Duchess. I only saw it for the first time on the day, when we cut the cake and it was SPECTACULAR!

Our caterer cancelled on us 10 days before the wedding, due to an argument with a business partner. Sox didn’t tell me at first and the gem that he is, sorted everything out before he came to me to tell me what had happened.

All’s well that ends well and everything was finally sorted.

Plan of action:

Get ready at the Radisson Blu Hotel Le Vendome in Sea Point. Marry in the Greek Church on Friday, 4 March. Afterwards, everyone makes their way to Greyton and checks into their respective accommodation.

That evening we created a Build your own Burger station for everyone as a “Meet and Greet/ Ice breaker.” This was the best because people were coming from all over the world and had never met each other. By the Saturday, everyone was fast friends and our reception was one massive collective party, not just little groups of people they knew and stuck to.

Saturday, 5 March, our English wedding ceremony under the trees, in the forrest area, followed by the reception in the big stone barn.

So now that you have the back story, we can now get into the actual days, with all the details, which I’ll do separately, with loads of photos!





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  • Reply Roye

    Omg Bailz!! That’s insane…. A lesser woman would have caved!! I’m so glad that it all worked out well for you guys in the end!!! You are a beautiful couple and truly deserve the best of lifes’ offerings!!

    November 14, 2016 at 2:22 pm
  • Reply Natalie

    Wow Bailey!!! just reading your story made me stress for you (Eeek!!!) … but so far, like you said… it worked out in your favour 🙂
    Looking forward to reading the rest.

    November 14, 2016 at 2:51 pm
  • Reply Megan Keith

    Wow! It really sound like everything that was meant to be, was! If that makes sense I can’t wait for the rest of your posts! You made an exquisite bride! Wow! Megan xx

    November 14, 2016 at 6:22 pm
  • Reply Janine

    I kept on having to hold my breath there… It seems like everything that could go wrong did. My mother (who is always right as they always are) is a firm believer in ” everything happens for a reason” – and as you pointed out everything that happened made way for your spectacular 2 day wedding :). Congrats again and I can’t wait to see and read the rest :).

    November 14, 2016 at 7:13 pm
  • Reply Jodie

    So excited to follow this story! Thanks for sharing xxx

    November 15, 2016 at 6:12 am
  • Reply Natasha Viljoen

    Oh my word, so many obstacles thrown in your way! A lesser person would have run for the hills LOL Luckily you are not a lesser person. Cant wait to read about your magical days!

    November 15, 2016 at 6:45 am
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    Wow…was so great to read about your pre-wedding story, as well as all the planning and decision making that went into your very special day 🙂 x

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