On Sunday morning, I woke up later than usual. 08h50. I needed the extra sleep. I was still in that cosy, just waking up stage of being too lazy to get out of bed to switch the kettle on for tea, but wanting a cup, wondering what the weather was like outside and trying not to wake up my sleeping husband, who had got home from work only a few hours prior.
My phone buzzed next to my bed. It was Maria suggesting a promenade walk with her and her 5 month Boston Terrier, Nacho. Part of me was still in the cosy, I’m-not-moving state, but I decided to not be that friend and told her to give me a few mins to change out of my PJs. 15 minutes later, I was meeting her with 2 take away lattes and we got chatting about a book she is reading. It’s a book about mindfulness – ironically I never found out the name of it, but it was exactly the conversation I needed to have – a lovely reminder. We live in such a fast paced world, with never ending to-do lists and plans. We are so busy looking at what lies ahead that we forget to live in the moment.
Mindfulness is being observant, living in each moment and being present in each moment and focusing on one task.
How often do we have a meal and actually enjoy each mouthful? If I’m honest, I’m either distracted by scrolling through Instagram, or reading an email or a blog.
How often do you notice something new in your neighbourhood or on the same route your travel each day. Do you notice the new billboard or the new slick of paint on that house/apartment/office block?
How observant are you?
I used to think multitasking was wonderful and a skill to be honed, but I’m starting to think that it’s making us less mindful and less focused.
This is what happened to me this morning. I needed to see something in an email from a few days ago. I turned to my laptop, but suddenly a FB notification alerted me to being tagged in a photo. Eek, what photo? Click on FB. Oh nice. Eyes are open and it’s not a bad angle. Winning. Like and allow on timeline. Oh, it’s xyz birthday. Wish them. Scroll down home page, like/love a few posts. Cool title for an article posted. Click on it. It takes me to a new URL. Read article. Another article catches my eye under suggested articles. Click and read. This is amazing and they have a cool Instagram feed. Must follow. Open Instagram. Search. Follow. My phone rings. Take call. Open Calendar on my iPhone and insert voice over session. Brought back to reality and I remember that I had opened my laptop originally to find an email.
A good 15 minutes of unnecessary distraction. How often does this happen to you?
I’m trying to be more mindful and not mind full. Get it?
Im trying to stay focused on one thing and give each task 100% of my attention. It’s only fair isn’t it?
I think the best way to start is:
- Being aware that you want to be mindful and present.
- Being aware of your breath, which really focuses you in the now. When I feel anxious or stressed, I just focus on my breathing and slow it down. It’s so helpful.
- Savour each meal. I’m really trying to stop looking at my phone and just enjoy each mouthful.
- When I drive I focus on the road, but also look at the sky, the streets, the buildings and try to take it all in and observe my surroundings instead of thinking of what I need to do next.
- Being grateful for what I have right now in this moment. This is a brilliant way to really hone in on the present. Right now, I have this awesome laptop to tap away at and put down all my thoughts, ramblings and work. I have delicious coffee next to me and my tummy is full. I have my health. I have a loving family, husband and friends. I have a job I adore. I have this blog that allows me to share and speak to a community.
How do you stay mindful? PS. Thanks Maria for the inspiration for this post! x