At this time of the year as the year continues to fly by and as hard as I try to ignore the Christmas decorations in the stores and the Christmas adverts on radio and TV, (not because I don’t love Christmas, but because I’m just not ready. I personally feel like we should only be in March. I seriously think the earth is turning faster and faster;) I find myself thinking and reflecting.
Some of the things I’ve learned in the past 18 months is to truly trust my gut. Now this seems to be ridiculously simple, but it is probably one of the most difficult things to do.
We have wants and needs, but what we want and need may not always be the best for us. Hindsight is lovely for that.
You’ll have your head telling you one thing -it’s mixed with a sprinkling of logic, what society says, what your peers say and so forth. You’ll have your heart saying something that is filled with emotions and love. Both can be confusing.
If you truly listen to that feeling in the pit of your stomach (no… it’s not indigestion) you will truly know what to do with the decisions you make. This can be applied to any situation… Work, relationships, family, friends and so on.
The reality comes in when: We don’t listen to our guts because it may not always align to what we want or hope for.
The problem with that, is you just prolong what you are supposed to be doing. You prolong your happiness and possibly prolong your pathway.
Either way…they are lessons in life. I’ve not listened to my gut a few times over. In fact, I’ve outright ignored it, because it’s not the “outcome” I wanted. Funny thing is…that “outcome” I thought would happen, didn’t and hindsight kicked in.
Every time I have not listened to my gut, I’ve kicked myself. Still… they were very valid lessons and I’m grateful for them, because it’s really shown me that I’m not messing around with the gut feel, the intuition we all have instilled in us.
Life has been full and happy and prosperous ever since I’ve started listening to my gut. It makes me wish I had done it sooner…but the lessons have been learned and everything is as it is supposed to be.
Another thing I’ve learned is that you can’t always listen to what other people think. It’s not about not caring or disregarding those in your life, whose opinions matter to you… but at the end of the day you are living your life, not others. It’s good to get opinions from good people you trust, but they can’t make decisions for you. If you stay true to your gut and stay true to yourself you cannot go wrong.
Human beings are strange creatures. None of us (in general) want the worst for people. None of us have ill intentions for people. However, when you receive resistance from someone for wanting to chase a dream or wanting to try something new etc… (apply it as you wish) instead of people wanting you to be successful or happy, they almost tell you it’s not possible or you’ll never do it and so forth.
This isn’t them being mean or not believing in you. This isn’t them not wanting the best for you… here’s the truth. It actually has NOTHING to do with you. They are projecting their own fears, insecurities onto you. They are worried it might not work, because it’s their fear that it wouldn’t. You are a mirror for their misfortunes, personal failures and fears.
It takes a while to sink in and to understand that. Think about it and you’ll see what I mean.
If you receive resistance – in a very weird and strange way… it’s normally quite a good sign. To be fair, this is a generalization.
Allow your gut feeling to be your anchor.