I never thought I’d be the girl who would ever do a long distance relationship. I also didn’t expect to meet a gem of a man who is completely worth it.
It’s so true what they say. You meet someone when you stop looking and when you least expect it.
I took a year out to be single… to figure out what I want and don’t want and I refused to settle.
Now it’s risky to speak write so openly about my relationship, but I’ve had so many questions about why I’m always flying to Durban and so forth, that I thought I’d do a post. Nothing to hide and just giddily in love…
I met Greg 5/6 months ago on the MSC Sinfonia Cruise (click on the link to read that post) when Karolina and I were going to have our girly weekend away. It had been a crazy year already what with work being madness and going on bad dates – aka I had decided I didn’t want to know about men anymore… and was coming to terms that I was probably going to be that eternal spinster who buys box wine and cat litter.I just wanted to get away from it all.
See? When you stop looking and least expect it.
Greg is a Joburg guy, who has been living in Durban for 2 years now. He’s decided to come home and the best part? It’s all for the right reasons. I’m happy to be a motivational factor, but not a reason. He’s been wanting to come home for a while now… and I couldn’t be happier.
We’ve been doing long distance for 5 months and it’s been one of the hardest things. It’s hard when you miss someone so much, when you want to come home after a stressful day and chat about your day over a glass of wine and you can’t. It’s hard when you just need a hug, kiss or squeeze but instead you only have a blackberry/iPhone and Skype and have to settle for seeing one another through a webcam and a computer screen.
It’s hard when you get invited to functions, dinners, birthday parties and you have to go alone, missing him, wishing he was sharing it with you.
I have some friends who have done or are doing long distance from one country to another. I take my hat off. For us to visit each other is a lot easier than if we were say: London/New York and so forth. Distance is still distance though and it’s difficult.
It has certainly taught me a lot about myself, a lot about relationships and a lot about our relationship. We are so incredibly strong because of the distance.
Our relationship is built on some of the most important pillars… Communication, trust, honesty, loyalty, friendship and deep love.
You really learn about each other… We constantly talk on BBM, Whatsapp, email, skype throughout the day.. Communication is key. Honesty is key. We have learned so much about each other and formed such a deep bond quickly because all you have is communication. There’s no coming home after work and sitting in front of the TVwith one another… there’s constant communication.
I trust him implicitly… you have to have trust and loyalty in order for it to work.
He has become one of my best friends and I love that I can be silly with him and then talk about our hopes and dreams and fears in the very next breath.
We have until the end of September before he moves back home. Exactly 26 more sleeps to go. Beyond ecstatic.